I love the idea of letting people in rather than coming out. I have to say it's how I feel now most of the time. It's more of a decision for me of "do I trust that person enough to let them know or not". If not, I don't feel bad anymore for not correcting them about the gender of my partner. It's ok to not want to put yourself in unnecessary risky situations sometimes.
Lovely piece. My child is trans so in a different way I completely get the repeated coming out feeling if people we don’t see very often asked after my children. It is exhausting but I feel intensely disloyal to her if I don’t correct them on what they asked.
With new people I don’t bother unless there is a real reason to.
Thank you for sharing. I can imagine how cumbersome it can be to have those conversations with people who might not grasp what being trans entails. Even family members of mine still wrestle with the fact that queerness or transness is not a choice, we are born this way.
Most of my daily have been quite good and friends likewise. I’m not sure they really understand but I’m okay with that. It has been a journey for us as a family to reach where we are now so I don’t expect people without the direct experience to get Al the nuance.
It must be a constant challenge. I never thought about this before. That means you are brave to let people in each time that happens.
It really is, but I think with each interaction I’ve become more emboldened to live my life for me, and as authentically as possible.
I love the idea of letting people in rather than coming out. I have to say it's how I feel now most of the time. It's more of a decision for me of "do I trust that person enough to let them know or not". If not, I don't feel bad anymore for not correcting them about the gender of my partner. It's ok to not want to put yourself in unnecessary risky situations sometimes.
Anyway, lovely post ❤️
I feel that, especially growing up Catholic and around very Latino and machismo culture, sometimes it is best to just protect your peace
Lovely piece. My child is trans so in a different way I completely get the repeated coming out feeling if people we don’t see very often asked after my children. It is exhausting but I feel intensely disloyal to her if I don’t correct them on what they asked.
With new people I don’t bother unless there is a real reason to.
Thank you for sharing. I can imagine how cumbersome it can be to have those conversations with people who might not grasp what being trans entails. Even family members of mine still wrestle with the fact that queerness or transness is not a choice, we are born this way.
Most of my daily have been quite good and friends likewise. I’m not sure they really understand but I’m okay with that. It has been a journey for us as a family to reach where we are now so I don’t expect people without the direct experience to get Al the nuance.
*family
Such a vulnerable journey and reframing the narrative to allowing others in 🙏
(Kurt Hummel should have rightfully won the solo for "Defying Gravity" in my opinion.)
I fully agree. Looking back Kurt was really the hero, Rachel the villain.
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